Not all relationships last—some are more of the “learning love” kind. But breakups are rarely easy. As a sex therapist and relationship expert turned neuroscientist, I often hear from people who regret breaking up.
It’s what I call a breakup hangover—when we end up being awash in feelings of regret after deciding to let go of a relationship.Having regrets post-breakup doesn’t necessarily mean that you should get back together with your ex.
We’re wired to feel bad when we experience the loss of a relationship, even if we’re the one who initiated the breakup. Longing, sadness, and grief are all exquisitely wired into our emotional instincts, and they can help us lean into doing the work of growth as a person.