Go Easy on Yourself: 4 Simple Tips to Help You Do What Matters in a Self-Kind Way

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha“People throw away what they could have by insisting on perfection, which they cannot have, and looking for it where they will never find it.” Edith SchaefferOne common way to get things done, to achieve and to motivate yourself is to be kind of hard on yourself.To set very high standards for yourself that you want to stick to every time.Now, this way of going about things can indeed help you to accomplish big things in your life and to get things done every week.But it comes at a price.Three negative things about taking this position towards yourself are:You tear your self-esteem down. As you achieve things you tend to tear down your own self-esteem at the same time.So you feel less and less like you deserve success.

And frustration and being angry can become more and more common as you fail to reach those very high standards.You suck the fun and excitement out of things.A hard or harsh attitude towards yourself has a tendency to make things that used to be fun and exciting less and less so.This attitude does instead over time turn those things into just work that you may start to dread because you fear failure or not meeting your high standards.You’ll perform worse and worse.As your self-esteem goes down you’ll feel less motivated to tackle the tasks and projects in your life.

As the fun and excitement goes out of many of the things you do procrastination tends to become more and more common.Plus, the work you put in becomes less energetic and focused and so the results aren’t that good anymore either.I used to take the harder and harsher path.