I’ve never . This I have always known. Growing up, women told me to wait and see, until I was older, until I fell in love, until I was married, until, until, until.
They told me I would change my mind, and I always wondered how I could change my mind about something I so deeply knew in my bones.
I once asked my doctor if I could donate my uterus—I knew some women desperately wanted to have biological children but couldn’t and mine seemed to brand me as a surefire mother whether I wanted it or not.
She said no. I got married in 2016. I turned 30 last year.Over the past three years, I wrote a book about undocumented people around the country called , which came out this month.