“If you do not have needs, you once did.” ~ Marshall Rosenberg When I was born, my mother did not want me. In the northern part of India, there is still a very strong preference for having a male child.
A female child is often seen as a burden because of the social and economic traditions of patriarchy. Because of this initial rejection, I became highly sensitive to my parents’ inner worlds.
In my deep longing to be loved and accepted, I mastered the subtle art of sensing their needs and feelings, becoming a natural caretaker.
I would come back from school and notice my mother’s overwhelmed face. Her days were always busy and full with myriad responsibilities.