Love bombing looks this this: flower deliveries at work, text messages at all hours, and talk of “soul mates” after just a few dates.
But unlike the calculated manipulation that’s part of the gaslighting cycle, when an infatuated adult with ADHD focuses 110 percent of their attention on a new partner, this obsession may be neurological rather than psychological.
It may not be intentional “love bombing” at all.Could this relationship hyperfocus be fueled by the ADHD brain and its affinity for novelty, craving for stimulation, need to satisfy curiosity or rise to a challenge?
Could their enthusiasm may be mistaken for love bombing? Could it reflect low self-esteem and approval-seeking tendencies?The roots of hyperfocus in ADHD relationships are complex, but the end result is often clear: While some partners may feel smothered, many get swept away by the over-the-top adoration.